How I was complicit in my own rapes

...and how it can help you prevent your own. I'd like to emphasize that this isn't a victim-blaming article. This is me sharing my experience so that when your time comes, you don't repeat my mistakes. Rapists are out there and people will let them off the hook. I want you to read this because…

Lockdown lamentations

It's 3:15 am. I've just spent some time on the patio, drinking coffee while the house cats explore the outdoors. The night is still, no one's out. I went to the street and looked up at the sky. It's more stars than I've seen in a while, mostly because the only time I look is…

Rape culture starts with your mom

While I say mom, this can and most likely applies to everyone, male, female, non-binary, who has a hand in raising a child. It's true. Think back on your own experiences. Mom offers child food. Child says no, I don't want it. Mom badgers child into saying yes. It's for your own good, it's delicious,…

Screaming at perverts doesn’t feel good

Someone I was with got catcalled. I happened to be walking behind that person, so I gave the catcaller a look that said "Die!" A few steps later, I wasn't satisfied so I turned around and marched back to the "man". Why did you say that to her? Do you know her? No. Even if…

I fell in love with my rapist, part 2

I guess I'm not the only one who continued to sleep with my rapist and fall in love with him. There's no shortage of articles on the subject. I Cheated on My Boyfriend with My Rapist 70 percent of rapes are committed by someone known to the victim. I did know my rapist. In fact,…